How Worrying More Can Help You Worry Less

Are you a worrier? Are you the sort of person who worries about anything and everything?

If so then you may be able to help yourself by taking your worrying more seriously - and spending more time on it!

A team of researchers in America have shown that people who allocate fixed amounts of time for worrying suffer less torment - and fewer side effects of stress - than people who always try to push their worries into the background.

Most people worry in bits.

If you think about it you'll see what I mean.

Your worries come and go during the day and you never really get a chance to think them through. You worry for a few minutes at a time and then your worrying is interrupted by the telephone or the doorbell or by the need to do something practical - like go to work or get a meal.

The evidence shows that you'd suffer far less if you allocated thirty minutes a day for worrying.

And made sure that NOTHING interrupted your worrying!

Keep a notebook and a pencil handy and every time something worrying comes into your mind write it down.

Unless it's really urgent don't worry about the problem now - wait until your special thirty minute "worry session" starts.

When your personal "worry session" starts turn off the telephone and go somewhere that you can't hear the doorbell. Make sure that you won't be interrupted.

Then concentrate hard on each item that you've put on your list.

Try to look at each problem from new angles. Try to see things from other people's point of view.

Most important of all look at each "worry" on your list and ask yourself:

"What's the worst that can happen?"

Then look for solutions. Look for answers. Look for ways to deal with the worries and anxieties you've accumulated.

You'll be amazed!

Most of the worries which normally irritate and create tension for days or even weeks can be thought through in a thirty minute "worry session".

By concentrating hard on your worries you'll get a chance to put them into perspective. And you'll be surprised at the many answers you find and how many problems simply disappear when they're thought about properly.

Copyright Vernon Coleman 2003