Why Cross Dressers Will Have the Last Laugh
Dr Vernon Coleman MB ChB DSc FRSA
Back at the start of the 21sth century it was known that women in developed countries could expect to live up to ten years longer than men. It was also a fact that nine times as many women as men lived to celebrate their one hundredth birthday.
It was widely assumed that women lived longer than men because of some genetic superiority or because they were, in some ill-defined way, physically superior. Indeed, most people believed that women have always lived longer than men.
Those were and are myths and I have never, ever believed them.
In a book of mine called, How To Live Longer, which was published at the start of the millennium, I pointed out that up until the early part of the twentieth century life expectancy for men was pretty much the same as life expectancy for women. The difference in life expectancy only developed during the 20th century.
I also pointed out that the difference in life expectancy could be easily explained; that it had nothing whatsoever to do with genetics or hormones but was all down to lifestyle.
Moreover, I pointed out that life expectancy rates would equalise as women's habits changed.
I put forward several explanations for the undoubted fact that men tended to die sooner than women.
First, for most of the twentieth century the average man pushed himself much harder than the average woman did. There were exceptions among both sexes, of course, but on the whole men felt that they had to drive themselves hard in order to `succeed'. The resultant high stress levels helped produce a high incidence of heart disease and damaged the immune systems of millions of men - thereby making vast numbers of men exceptionally vulnerable to many varieties of cancer. Men tended to take on jobs which came with a great deal of mental or physical stress. Workaholism was almost exclusively a male problem for the greater part of the twentieth century. Driven by ambition, competitiveness and a need to succeed millions of men pushed themselves to the limit and beyond. Many men died - or become chronic invalids - because of their workaholism.
Second, smoking had, for decades, been very much a `male' habit. For most of the 20th century the number of male smokers far exceeded the number of female smokers. And it was the popularity of smoking among men which partly explained the higher incidence of heart disease and some common cancers among men.
Third, the consumption of alcohol was much greater among men than among women. Alcohol was, for most the twentieth century, a `man thing'. Alcoholism - and alcohol induced damage - used to be much commoner among men than women. The female body is more susceptible to alcohol but excessive drinking was traditionally been something much more likely to affect men than women. And alcohol, especially when consumed in large quantities, causes many deadly diseases.
Fourth, throughout the twentieth century men were more likely than women to eat too much and more likely to eat the wrong (often high fat content) foods. Women tended to be more conscious of the advantages of healthy eating than men. In addition, women have traditionally been much more conscious of their size than have men and slimming clubs have always been more popular with women than with men.
Fifth, for the first three quarters of the twentieth century most of the financial worries within a marriage were shouldered by the man. Many women never saw their husband's pay packet or bank details. A remarkable number of women never even knew how much their husbands earned. Worrying about money is one of the commonest stresses - and is particularly likely to result in ill health.
Sixth, when men took exercise it tended to be physically combative and potentially damaging. Football, for example, is likely to result in all sorts of physical injuries. The exercise men took also tended to be competitive in nature. So, for example, when men play golf or tennis they are often determined to win. The result of all this was that when men took exercise it was likely to prove physically and mentally damaging. Women tended, on the whole, to avoid competitive and combative forms of exercise. Women attended keep fit classes or aerobic classes – non-competitive and non-combative forms of exercise which kept them healthy.
There were other factors but those were the most significant ones and they were, in some ways, a result of innate differences between the sexes as much as a result of social and cultural differences. Although it is popular among the politically correct to claim that men and women are the same the evidence clearly shows that there are fundamental differences. Small boys like playing with toy cars, balls and guns and small girls prefer playing with dolls. It may not be fashionable to say this but it is true nevertheless. Girls don’t feel the need to do violent things. Their innate sense of femininity normally protects them.
I predicted decades ago that the difference in life expectation between men and women would not continue far into the 21st century. This was not because men were going to live longer but because women were going to die sooner. I felt that the women’s liberation movement had taken a decade off every woman’s life expectancy.
And that is exactly what has happened: there has been an equalling of life expectancies among men and women.
It wasn’t a difficult prediction to make.
The number of women who smoke cigarettes has risen dramatically. The number of women drinking heavily has risen. Increasing numbers of women have been suckered by the women's liberation movement into believing that they owe it to themselves to take a more masculine attitude to life. It is common these days to find women in positions of managerial power. Modern women have demanded, and have taken, the same sort of damaging stresses as were endured by men throughout the twentieth century. Many women seem more aggressive and more `masculine' than men. The incidence of stress related disorders has rocketed. And women are taking their exercise more seriously too - they have become more competitive and they push themselves harder when they are allegedly relaxing. There are now a good many women playing soccer, rugby and other sports – and playing them just as aggressively as men. Moreover, women are making themselves tougher and more self-sufficient; they are abandoning (and suppressing) their innate femininity and adopting traditional masculine attitudes. The effect on their health is inevitable, noticeable and deadly.
All this has a great deal to do with men who cross dress because we are the only group of men who are diluting our masculinity with some softening femininity. Most men are as aggressive as they ever were. And most women are now equally aggressive. Both sexes damage their health on a daily basis. Men and women may smoke less but their eating and drinking habits are almost as bad as ever. And their attitudes have hardened – with devastating results.
I have, for years, known that cross dressers often find that they can reduce their blood pressure, and improve their health in other ways, by putting on something feminine.
(I have not yet been able to conduct any proper research but I am confident that male cross dressers tend to live longer than other men – and will soon live longer than women too.)
You would think, would you not, that women on the whole would welcome the idea of men cross dressing. But they haven’t. Women have welcomed the idea of individuals having sex change operations but they have, on the whole, remained opposed to the idea of men putting on a frock occasionally. This is odd because I doubt if there are many women who do not cross dress on a daily basis – wearing trousers, shirts and other masculine items of attire.
It would make sense for the medical profession to encourage men to dress in feminine clothing. It would do far more good (and far less harm) than prescribing tranquillisers and anti-depressants. But as far as I know I am the only doctor to advocate the therapeutic values of cross dressing.
Indeed, the world in general is still surprisingly antagonistic towards the idea of cross dressing.
Interviewers who have mentioned the fact that I cross dress, have sneered and been deeply offensive. I suspect that at least one journalist would have been arrested if I were a transsexual, a homosexual or a member of any other minority group. An interview in the Independent on Sunday magazine was so snide and unpleasant that I stopped doing interviews.
I’m afraid I can’t see attitudes changing notably in the near future.
But we can, perhaps, take some comfort from the fact that we’ll have the last laugh because, as a group, we cross dressers will live longer than men or women.
Copyright Vernon Coleman March 2020
Vernon Coleman’s books about cross dressing include Men in Bras, Panties and Dresses and Briefs Encounter. Both are available as eBooks and paperbacks on Amazon. There are several articles about cross dressing on this website: www.vernoncoleman.com